This morning I woke up to not one, but 3 text messages from some of my closest girlfriends. One was telling a funny story, the other was trying to arrange plans together, and the other was simply wishing a Happy Friday. I actually woke up smiling - and I'm telling you: that rarely happens in the mornings! It made me realize just how lucky I am to have these people in my life, and how much they really are there, even if we all get busier these days. I decided to round up 5 basic characteristics that I think contribute to a beautiful friendship!:
1) They Make You Feel a Part of Their Lives
This morning was a perfect example: all these ladies had to do was spare moment out of their day to send a quick text message to make someone like me smile. It sounds like common sense, but trust me when I say that there's people out there who won't always do this. Good friends like that will make you feel like you're a part of each other's lives, even if it's in that simple, small way. To me, that goes a long way.
2) You Smile & Laugh in Each Other's Presence
I mean, of course, right?! I may be easily amused, but I also find most of my friends hilarious each in their own way. When we're together, we're always laughing, cracking witty jokes and comments to each other. It makes things light, and being in each other's presence all the more enjoyable.
3) You Have Good Conversation
When you have close friends, you're able to move past casual, small talk and drunken conversations. I love having those deep, meaningful conversations with some of my closest girl and guy friends, too! You really form deep connections and become closer to each other. Especially for us ladies - I dunno what I'd do without my girl talk :)
4) It's About Quality, Not Quantity
This works in 2 ways: 1) it's not about having a lot of friends, but a few close friends. And 2) the duration of time you know someone. Example: you could "know" someone for years, but maybe that close bond was never really there. And then, you could meet someone else on a whim and right away, there's a connection between you guys. A perfect example is a sweet girlfriend I met last year at work. We only worked together for a few months, but we bonded immediately, and even after our assignment was done, we continued to keep in touch. This upcoming weekend, Brian and I are headed to her wedding and I cannot tell you how excited I am to see her! She is incredibly sweet, warm and personable; all qualities I look for in a good friend. Which brings me to my next example:
5) They're Personable & Thoughtful Towards You & Others
I haven't had my Facebook profile in almost a year and I don't really announce things like my birthday. Yet on the morning of my birthday this year, I can't tell you how loved I felt. Within the first few hours, I had messages flooding in all from my closest and dearest of friends. Even though you think to yourself, "Well, of course they'll remember!" I still found myself gushing with glee and thinking, "Aw, yay - they remembered!" It really goes without saying: anyone who is a true friend and is really there for you will show it, and always look out for you and your best interests. If you ever feel shunned or have self-doubt in any way - reflect on things. That's definitely not something you should be feeling with a friend(s)!
There's so much more I wanna include but for now, I'll leave it as that. Maybe one day, I'll write five more things that make a good friendship, since there is so much more to it! Even if you can say you have at least one good friend in your life you know you can rely on, consider yourself very blessed. Friends are so important! Be sure to treasure them always.
Thank you to my friends who encouraged this post! :)